Doris, Ruth, Judy and Francis


… lived on Cherokee lane for over 30 years. Their children walked to school together, to Ardmore middle school which is now a church. These women have played bridge together,  once a month, for all those years.

They call themselves the Cherokee Squaw.

Ruth suffered from Alzheimer’s and passed away a few years ago. I now own her home.  Judy owned an electronics store in ardmore, it closed years ago and Judy has moved to a different neighborhood. I haven’t met Francis yet. Doris, however lives next door, to the west of my home. She suffers from early signs of dementia but still has her wits and charm. A sweet older lady who can still tell you the history of Cherokee Lane.  She’ll tell you that Ruth was her best friend and was the smartest, most kind women she knew. Or, she might causually mention that Emily’s house, directly beside and to the west of Doris’, was once owned by a crooked cop in the 1970s. He became a bank robber and eventually was caught, surrounded by police in his home on Cherokee Lane. Doris’ has a dramatic pause that  I’m not sure is intentional or to collect her thoughts. She wraps up the story telling you he committed suicide in his home before the police could come in and arrest him for the bank robberies. She then promptly asked me to take our neighbors dog a milk bone so she doesn’t have to tramp across my yard, which is what she had been doing for the last two years while Ruth’s house was vacant before I bought it 3 months ago.  Emily,  had no idea about the crooked cop before buying the house 3 yrs ago.  She’s now convinced  her house is haunted by his ghost.

Doris also told me that I would need a new roof soon because her son replaced mine about 25 years ago. I’ve learned the names of all the flowers as the pop up in my yard by asking her . And that Ruth, in her senior years, planted bluebirds in the empty wooded lot across the street from my home so she could see them bloom while staring out the large living room window. Ruth, liked to garden. When ever she traveled she would bring home plants to add to her yard.

33 things


…that I haven’t done,  Can’t do, But will do by 34.

Own a home

(Started out strong there didn’t I?!)

Make a leather wallet

Re model a kitchen

Get some big girl pants

Work on having feelings and trust issues

Read a book a month at least

(Doing it, Thanks to book club! Persepolis, the dog walker, some new David eggers book w/ a long title, the family fang, I remember nothing, not that kind of girl, confederates in the attic)

Buy some new art

Make some new art.. Cough… Craft

Check in with my friends. A cycle I battle with all the time.

Own my own pottery wheel

Learn some minor electrical work.

Keep a succulent alive for at least a year

Maybe I’ll add…. Keep my bedroom clean 😁

only on #14….

purge, purge will count for the rest.

purge clothes.

  • but how do you get rid of all those halloween costumes?

how many plants are too many plants? my new house has 7 rooms… if i want to count the hallway and the garage there are MORE rooms. each room gets  a plant. sorry. thats just how it is.

i have, just looking, around 30 plants. i gave away three already.

i have a bamboo i received from Eric when he moved to California to follow love when we were neighbors on lockland. a pencil cactus from my first days as being a single lady swearing off love for ever two years ago. two christmas cactus’ that come from a dear friend from work who has had the original for over 20 years. A bavarian belle and purple violet that come from my grandmother’s plant that was in her care for over 30 years before i even received a clipping. We even lost the strain once because said dear work friend poured coffee with milk in it to water it….(?!?!) and killed it. luckily we had given a friend a clipping and 2 years later she mentioned hers was doing fine and we recovered the family bavarian belle! i have an aloe plant because i can’t keep them alive and it simply means something to me if i can…patience. there’s a plant i don’t know what it is but its in a pottery bowl i paid too much for at the snob shop w/ a gift card from river run after my favorite film season. then i went and bought some huge plants for the new house that won’t fit… but they are cute and i bought and painted planters for them. those will have to go to friends as second thought gifts.

there are clippings of friends philodenrens that have woven their way around my plant stands and i’d have to part with both the plant and the stand.

dang it, there’s a third christmas cactus that has never bloomed but sits in a vintage hazel atlas jar, one that we used for jessica’s wedding candles.

In trying to connect and make new friends Nate gave me clippings of three plants and that was a great summer – some one to talk to about plants. one of those will go.

there are plants in pottery i made…

purge pottery- give friends pottery no way do i need all this pottery and still take the class. sell pottery?

The house on melrose had a huge kitchen and we filled every cabinet with vintage dishes that are my favorite. when i moved to madison ave the kitchen was divided in to… use and “do not un pack” boxes.  which is exactly where they have stayed. untouched for two years.

this new house in ardmore is even smaller and i have to purge even more. AND i’m sharing the house with dude.  because clearly…swearing off love forever is something my heart is not capable of.



whats this ?! 3 natural things i’ve added to my life


This has definitely been a year of change and adjustments. originally when i moved out i thought it was going to be the best year ever…the end of 2013 was so strong. work was great, traveling was more frequent, friends were dear and abundant. i’ve traveled, other than the cabin, once since costa rica. it was supposed to be THE YEAR…i was going everywhere!!! There were things i wanted to do and try and branch out.

I’ll work on that in 2015…because this hobbit year while enlightening could have been a bit more adventurous.

This post is actually about the few things i’ve added to my life in the last few years that have made a huge difference.

1. fish oil – i take two pills before bed and since i’ve arranged my schedule that way i swear i sleep better. it has also helped with the unbearable pain in my right wrist. i lift a lot of items and flip my wrist a lot at work. pretty sure i sprained it a few years ago and its never been the same. i would come home with my wrist throbbing and put ice on it, sleep with ice on it (froze peas). i tried braces, rest, a lot of healthy stretches recommend to me and nothing worked. last ditch effort was fish oil. it has been life changing as far as the inflammation and soreness i’ve suffered in the past 5 years.

2. Turmeric- i have dry patches of skin occasionally, specifically under my nose. i have tried all the remedies the dr’s have prescribed/ suggested and it wasn’t until i started using turmeric in everything that i noticed an amazing difference. its anti bacterial, anti inflammatory, anti fungal. its amazing.
side note. i include ginger here as turmeric is in the ginger family. nothing helps my sore throat more than ginger, turmeric, garlic, honey lemon tea. If you approach this tea as a soup it’ll go down a lot easier 🙂
i suffer from a sore, dry, swollen throat every winter. i’ve tried many remedies from dr.’s. i have also abstained from drinking alcohol and caffeine during these months. the best thing has been ginger and turmeric.

3. Tea Tree Oil (TTO)Because of my throat i’ve also added a humidifier to the mix. it took me forever to happen upon an article about why humidifiers become so loud, which is one of the reasons people quit using them. Cleaning them is obviously key, they’re damp and dark…left alone to their own devices they mold, even the ones with anti mold technology. The more frequently you clean your humidifier the less noise you will have. some of the noise comes from build up from hard water. i’m sure some are just old, the motor starts slowing down etc… but for me the former is the case. once i started cleaning mine every other week the loud humming noise reduced back to a manageable whisper.
To clean mine i use a tiny bit of vinegar and a few drops of tea tree oil, let sit for awhile and rinse throughly. the parts that can be soaked in a sink (lids, caps, filter, water basin) will be soaked with natural soap and tea tree oil.



future plans.
….i can honestly say i’m super excited to see the new Teen age mutant ninja turtle movie in the theater…i never do that.
– there’s the beach coming up in a few weeks
– there’s Sugar Brew just around the corner
– Puerto Rico with my tall lady friend bekah (ahhhh)
– Germany for Octoberfest. yeah that one is a hot minute away…an entire year and some months but i am pretty excited about Munich.
– the solo day hikes have been awesome so far!
this list needs to be much longer



This happened. I secreted (ask bekah) that I wanted key lime pie. The next day Jessica made it and I got one! Then… I left it out on the counter the whole weekend instead of packing it in my cooler for my beer fest hiking filled weekend. I for got to secret that part where I eat the key lime pie.
I’m new at it.
Also note I am not saying secreting/ leaking



So recently i’ve become incredibly interested in love, stress, relationships, vulnerability, commitments, and communication.
AND that means every night i’ve been falling asleep to different Ted Talks by the likes of:
Helen Fisher- listen to them all!!!
Amy Cuddy
Esther Perel
Brene Brown- vulnerability
Kelly McGonigal- Stress
Shereen El Feki- virgin births and the middle east
Ash beckham- the courage to open up

anyways. you should download the ted app on your phone and save some of these talks to your phone for random listening.
also Helen Fisher has a bunch of talks located on other websites- and you should probably read all her books.